By Jessica Leith & Fiona O'Farrell
What do the Loch Ness Monster, UFO’s or the city of Atlantis have to do with sex? Well, these infamous legends are similar to the g spot, in that its reputation and mystery may be the most compelling thing about it.
One of the most googled questions on the internet, the search for the g spot has awarded it a top spot on the list of humankind’s unsolved mysteries. Today, we are going to lay out what we know, what is yet to be discovered and how exploring the female g spot may be a great way to unlock pleasure.
What is the g spot?
The “g spot” is short for the Gräfenberg spot, which is an area that can be felt through the vagina that some people assigned female at birth (AFAB) find sensitive or pleasurable when stimulated. It is considered to be an erogenous zone and many theorize that the g spot in women is responsible for a vaginal orgasm.
The earliest reference to it was by the 17th century Dutch physician Regnier de Graaf, who described this female ejaculation and erogenous zone as similar to the male prostate. German gynecologist Ernst Grafenburg elaborated on his urethral stimulation research in the 1940’s and noted the erotic zone on the anterior (towards the belly) wall of the vaginal canal along the course of the urethra, with the term finally being coined by Addiego et al in 1981 and Lados and Whipple in 1982.
All this to say that the female g spot is often considered to bring about intense orgasms and pleasure for anyone fortunate enough to experience one.
Where is the g spot in women?
The existence of the female g spot is somewhat controversial, and like many things related to sex and pleasure, has not been well researched or documented. It’s an Atlantis of sorts, in that people say it exists, but there is no radiographic evidence nor has it ever been identified in post mortem autopsies.
Many sexologists have determined that the g spot in women can’t be found because the g spot is not a “place” but instead part of the larger internal clitoral structure, urethral sponge, nerve pathways, pelvic tissue and organs.
The very limited research that does exist on the g spot in women even contradicts itself. Some studies support an anatomical location whereas others support the theory of the female g spot being connected to a large internal network designed solely for pleasure.
Despite the lack of physical evidence for the g spot in women, it is commonly understood that it is a powercenter for intense g spot orgasms, a potential player in “squirting”, and a symbol for the enigma of human pleasure.
How do you find the g spot in women?
Finding the exact location of the g spot in women can be a bit tricky, due to the fact that it is not a specific spot to stimulate, unlike the clitoris, but more of a zone that is connected to lots of other pleasurable stimuli. Dr. Beverly Whipple described the avenue for locating the g spot as using a “come here” motion inside the wall of the vagina, which she found would produce a physical response in women.
The female g spot is believed to be about 2-3 inches inside the vaginal wall, however, it can vary for each person. Many report that the sensation of g spot stimulation is similar to the sensation of needing to pee. All in all, it might be easy to access for some women, while it might not be located in others at all.
Do all women have a g spot?
No, not all women necessarily have a g spot. Lending to its controversy, the g spot experience is not universal and like many myths about sex, the search for its existence became more important than the research to understand it. An interview with famed sexologist Beverly Whipple later revealed that naming the g spot “got all out of hand” because it spurred the misinformation about an anatomical “place” as opposed to an experience.
This may be an important time to acknowledge that the allure of the female g spot tends to intrigue people who are most interested in penetrative sex. Remember, the majority of people assigned female at birth can experience outstanding orgasms through clitoral
stimulation, which requires no internal stimulation.
As sex therapists, we can tell you that understanding your motivation for sexual experiences is the most important factor to increasing your pleasure, so in your quest to access the female g spot, it’s important to understand your “why” behind this mission. In other words, your interest in this should be for you, your own curiosity and understanding and not to fulfill the request or interest of another person.
How many g spots do women have?
Because the g spot is considered to be an erogenous zone that is connected to other pleasurable stimuli, it’s difficult to say that people have multiple g spots, or even one. What we do know is that for individuals who are able to experience a vaginal orgasm, that the pleasure they experience is due to a number of different factors that is particular to their anatomy and sensitivity in the pelvic region.
Although the part of the clitoris we see is a small pea-like structure that can be pinpointed on the body, its vast internal structure is connected to the vaginal wall that runs much deeper and can be part of the area that can potentially help to stimulate the g spot in women. So ultimately, it’s a series of mechanisms that work together to create the ultimate sexual experience, and for each unique individual there will be highly sensitive and pleasurable areas or sensations that enhance female g spot orgasms.
What are the best sex positions for female g spot stimulation?
If someone can experience g spot stimulation, there are a variety of positions to enhance activation of the female g spot (or really, the activation of the internal network that creates the g spot sensation).
Now that we understand that the g spot is interconnected to the larger pleasure network of tissue, organs and nerves, the best way to aid in activating g spot sensation is to activate the entire network. This is anything that “turns you on” and helps you to feel aroused and willing to receive pleasure. See our article “How to have better sex” to explore tips on staying mindful during sexual experiences.
As for positions, you can explore g spot stimulation either digitally or using penetration of a penis, dildo, or other toys:
Female g spot exploration with your hands or toys
Facing one another, your partner can use a well lubricated finger (or sex toy) to insert into the vaginal opening, and slowly move deeper until 2 - 3 inches into the vaginal canal (this depth is an estimate and will vary depending on your unique anatomy). As you receive, make sure to notice the sensation and take deep breaths. As you feel more settled into the feeling of a partner’s finger inside you, they can begin to use a “come hither” motion, stroking the interior wall towards your belly.
Many people report having their pelvis lifted helps to feel more comfortable, so you may want to be lying down with your feet planted on the bed or floor and a pillow or foam wedge placed under your butt or lower back. Others will need some clitoral stimulation in order to feel more aroused and receptive to digital exploration. A partner is not required for this but the angle is important, so if you want to do some solo exploration, play around with your positioning or use toys as an extension of your own hands and fingers.
Female g spot exploration with a penis
Using many of the same guidelines above (willingness to receive, mindfulness, breath and lube) positions with a partner can also activate the g spot. Missionary (try again with lifting your pelvis by placing a pillow or wedge under your butt), doggy style, and cowgirl typically allow for the most g spot stimulation during penetrative sex.
Best sex toys for g spot stimulation?
Pepper has a wide selection of sex toys designed to enhance female g spot sensation. Generally, toys or dildos that have some length so that you can feel the depth and are curved so it can stimulate the interior wall is what most people report being linked to the g spot.
All in all, the g spot in women is an anomaly that may not ever be fully understood.